Domestic Violence & Abuse

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Call Police immediately ifYou or another person is in immediate danger,
you believe 
a person is about to harm her/himself or a person is out of control and erratic.
 Campus Police 949-582-4444 (x4444 from Campus Extentions) or 911

Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone.

Physical Abuse: Hitting, slapping, shoving, grabbing, pinching, biting, hair pulling, etc are types of physical abuse. This type of abuse also includes denying a partner medical care or forcing alcohol and/or drug use upon him or her.

Sexual Abuse: Coercing or attempting to coerce any sexual contact or behavior without consent. Sexual abuse includes, but is certainly not limited to, marital rape, attacks on sexual parts of the body, forcing sex after physical violence has occurred, or treating one in a sexually demeaning manner.

Emotional Abuse: Undermining an individual's sense of self-worth and/or self-esteem is abusive. This may include, but is not limited to constant criticism, diminishing one's abilities, name-calling, or damaging one's relationship with his or her children.

Economic Abuse: Is defined as making or attempting to make an individual financially dependent by maintaining total control over financial resources, withholding one's access to money, or forbidding one's attendance at school or employment.

Psychological Abuse: Elements of psychological abuse include  - but are not limited to - causing fear by intimidation; threatening physical harm to self, partner, children, or partner's family or friends; destruction of pets and property; and forcing isolation from family, friends, or school and/or work.

Domestic Violence can happen to anyone regardless of race, age, sexual orientation, religion, or gender. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. Domestic violence occurs in both opposite-sex and same-sex relationships and can happen to intimate partners who are married, living together, or dating.

 

Organizations and Programs:

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The County of Orange Social Services Agency (SSA) 

949-389-8456

714-541-4895

ssa.ocgov.com/

(SSA)  programs protect children and adults from abuse or neglect; enable the frail and disabled to remain in their homes rather than being institutionalized; move eligible families from dependency to self-sufficiency; and, provide benefits for eligible CalWORKs, CalFresh, Refugee, General Relief, and Medi-Cal recipients. 

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Women's Transitional
Living Center

24/7 Hotline

1-877-531-5522

1-714-992-1931

www.wtlc.org
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Not Alone
  www.notalone.gov Information for students, schools, and anyone interested in finding resources on how to respond to and prevent sexual assault on college and university campuses and in our schools.
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Love is Respect

1-866-331-9474

text "loveis"

to 22522

www.loveisrespect.org

Loveisrespect is a project of the National Domestic Violence Hotline and Break the Cycle. Love is Respect.org the ultimate resource to engage, educate and empower youth and young adults to prevent and end abusive relationships.

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211
211 www.211.org We’re a confidential, judgment-free, cost-free resource to aid women, men, teens and children who find themselves in situations of emotional and physical abuse or who need help getting out of dangerous or threatening living situations.

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Laura's House

Crisis 24/7

1-866-498-1511

1-949-498-1511

Counseling, Legal & Resources

1-949-361-3775

Office

1-949-361-3775

www.laurashouse.org We provide services to men, women, children, the elderly population, LGBT community and teens. We can help If you are in danger, need a safe place to stay, have questions or want to talk, want information to make help decisions, want to know about resources available to you, like support groups, counseling, legal assistance with restraining orders and more.

 

Dating Violence: Abuse or mistreatment that occurs in either heterosexual or same-sex relationships. It may take place at any point in the dating process – when two people first meet and become interested in one another, on their first date, during their courtship, once they have been involved with each other for some time, or after their relationship has ended.

Intimate Partner Violence: Physical, sexual, or psychological harm by a current or former partner or spouse. This type of violence can occur among heterosexual or same-sex couples and does not require sexual intimacy.

Rape: Unwanted, coerced and/or forced sexual penetration. The perpetrator may penetrate the victim's vagina, mouth, or anus, either with a body part or another object. The victim also may be forced to penetrate the perpetrator's vagina, mouth, or anus.

Sexual Harassment: Unwanted verbal sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other visual, verbal, or physical conduct of a sexual nature. Sexual harassment can also include stalking, voyeurism ("peeping toms"), exhibitionism/exposing, and obscene comments and phone calls. Sexual harassment can occur in the workplace, school, and other settings (such as public transportation, shopping malls, community events, social gatherings, places of worship, heath care facilities) and can create an intimidating or hostile environment for the victim. The perception of the victim, not the intent of the harasser, determines whether particular words or actions are harassing.

Sexual Violation: Use of sexual contact behaviors that are unwanted by and/or harmful to another person, but do not involve penetration. This can include touching or rubbing against a non-consenting person in public ("frottage"), forced masturbation, and non-consensual touching of the breasts, buttocks, genitals, and other sexualized body parts by another person.

Stalking: While legal definitions of stalking vary from one jurisdiction to another, a good working definition of stalking is a course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear. A stalker is someone who willfully, maliciously and repeatedly follows or harasses another (victim) and who makes a credible threat with the intent to place the victim or victim's immediate family in fear for their safety. According to California Penal Code 646.9, the victim does not have to prove that the stalker had the intent to carry out the threat.

It isn't sexual abuse if the victim consented. On the surface of it, this is a true statement but the term "consent" must be strictly defined. Ideally, a consenting individual is fully aware of what they are doing, has a good grasp of the consequences, and is free from any manipulation or coercion.
If a person is not capable of knowing what they are getting into, then they have not consented.
A victim may also choose to go along with the abuse in order to ensure that they survive the assault but submission does not mean consent
Rape is a sexual crime Sexual assault is a violent assault acted out in a sexual way. It violates not only the victim's body, but also the victim's integrity, safety and right to control his/her life.
Rapists are creepy looking men who hang out in dark alleys. In 75% of sexual assaults, the attacker is someone known to the victim: a friend, spouse or relative. The attackers seem normal, just like anyone else. Most are married, and of any race, class, religion, occupation or physical appearance.

The rapist is a sexually unfulfilled person carried away by uncontrollable urges.


Sexual assault is a question of power, not passion, and people can control themselves.

If people stay inside after dark they are safe from rape.
Seventy-five percent of sexual assaults occur at home or in a vehicle.
Rape is a rare occurrence in our society.

Sexual assault has always been a problem in our society and it is getting worse. Reported assaults account for only 10% of all such crimes.

Rapists rarely repeat their crimes. 50% of convicted sexual assaulters repeat their crimes
Sexual assault of males is a rare occurrence. Males and females are both vulnerable to sexual exploitation. Since males are expected to take care of themselves, they are less likely to report sexual assault or talk about it. In ever-increasing numbers, men are coming forward to acknowledge the occurrence of recent assaults on them as adults.
Males who are sexually assaulted do not suffer to the same extent as female victims. Sexual assault is a crime of violence and all victims suffer. Male victims experience the same reaction to the crime as female victims. Some of these reactions include self-blame, fear, anger, relationship problems, questions about sexuality, addictions and trust issues. Not everyone will experience all of these nor to the same extent.
Males are only abused by homosexual men. The majority of offenders are heterosexual males; only a few are homosexual men. Females can also assault males, using coercion or threats to enforce compliance. Because most offenders are known to the victim, attacks are unexpected and often are not labeled as a sexual assault by the victim.

Eighty percent of offenders fall into the category of acquaintances, such as friends, relatives, coworkers, classmates, etc.

Males assaulted by another male automatically are, or become, homosexuals. Again, sexual assault is not a crime of sex; it is a crime of violence. The sexual orientation of the victim is not changed by such an attack. A straight male assaulted by another male does not become homosexual any more than a gay man assaulted by a female would become heterosexual. This myth causes many male victims to avoid telling anyone for fear of being labeled gay. It is not uncommon for others, including some police and family members, to believe this and to act negatively.
Male victims of sexual assault can never be normal again. They are permanently damaged Although sexual assault is a very traumatic experience, with help victims do recover. The important thing is that help is sought. Healing from a sexual assault is a long, sometimes painful process; dealing with it alone is very difficult. Talking to others who have had similar experiences, or with someone who is supportive, can help the victim cope with the emotional responses to the assault.
The victims secretly want to be raped Sexual assault is often violent, terrorizing and humiliating. People do not want to be abused, hurt or humiliated. Fantasies are one thing; reality is another.
The victims "ask for it" by their dress and actions. No person asks to be hurt or degraded. Most sexual assaults are planned, and when an attacker wants to assault, it makes no difference how the victim looks or how they dress.

Currently enrolled Students who have paid their health fee may call or come into 
The Student Health Center during the hours of 8 AM to 5 PM - M-Th and F 8AM to 3 PM 
(Closed holidays & weekends) to make an appointment.
Urgent and emergent cases will be seen without an appointment.

Please let the Student Health Center know if you are in crisis
or in need of immediate medical or mental health help.

Saddleback College

Student Health Center

Student Services Center

SSC #177
949-582-4606
Campus phone dial X4606

Saddleback College

Campus Police
 

 


Campus Police
949-582-4444
Campus phone dial X4444

Anytime, after hours and during campus closures.

Emergencies
Dial 911
Urgent Human Services
Dial 211